All Hallow’s Eve

By , October 31, 2010 8:10 PM

Happy Halloween, everyone!

I have a large enclosed porch on the front of my house and I have several wind chimes hanging inside.  Normally, they are silent.  Tonight, they are playing regularly with all my costumed visitors.  Did you know that one of the early motivations for the creation of wind chimes was to ward off evil spirits?  I’m not much of a believer in random coincidence.  Are you?

As you may know, Halloween marks a time during which it’s thought that the veil between this world and other spiritual worlds is thinnest.  I wonder if many people will try to make the most of this opportunity to connect with other wisdom and assistance, not to mention loved ones who have passed from this world.  I’m watching the live annual Ghost Hunters episode, but they don’t seem to be having too much luck yet.  But it is still early.  Each day, it’s in the wee hours of the morning—around 2 or 3am—that access to the Otherworld is most common.

I know that tomorrow Catholics commemorate All Saints Day, which honors all saints, known and unknown.  The following day is All Souls Day, which honors the departed in general.  Variations of this theme appear in other Christian and cultural traditions as well.  Frequently, families visit the graves of their dead relatives and leave flowers to honor them.  The commonality, however, is clear: this time of year is all about honoring and connecting with the spirit world.

Is there something you’d like to ask a spirit?  Is there someone with whom you’d like to communicate?  This is the time to ask.  You can request communication via your dreams by asking specifically for the information or guidance or connection before you fall asleep.  Also put forth an intention that you’ll remember your dream.  Prepare pen and paper at your bedside so that you can write down your dreams when you awake.  Don’t be discouraged if you have to do this for a few days in a row before you get anything.

And, of course, it’s so fun to see all the neighborhood kids dressed up—although many of them seem to be taking their trick-or-treating and their costumes very seriously.  The most unique costumes I saw tonight were a pink flamingo (whom I mistakenly called a pelican after I confirmed that she wasn’t meant to be a lawn ornament), a medieval knight (not King Arthur), a ninja bird (yeah, I wasn’t gonna question too much), and a whole host of adorable kids—whether they were tiny, silent tots or sulky teenagers.

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By , October 30, 2010 9:04 PM

These days, many corporations have chosen to put together mission and vision statements.  Have you heard of them?  A mission statement is a short, written proclamation designed to communicate a company’s purpose and it’s used to set the tone for all its dealings.  The vision statement states what the company wants to be.  As the name suggests, it’s more forward-looking and attempts to define its context in the world.  Paired, these beacons are meant to be touchstones to guide the company’s employees and remind them of their business priorities.

While many companies go through the exercise of creating their mission and vision statements, all too often, they simply pay lip service to the real goal.  What ends up being created are a few sentences that sound good, but are simply a hollow, emasculated facsimile of what these powerful statements were meant to be.  And that’s a real shame because if created and used properly the words in a few sentences can communicate a very powerful intention.

Tonight I watched the movie Amelia, which told the story of Amelia Earhart.  What really impressed me was how focused she was.  She knew what she was all about and what she wanted to do.  And she kept her eyes on those goals as she moved through life.  As her life evolved, so did her purpose and her vision.  I don’t know if she deliberately defined what those things were for her, but they were easily identifiable through the choices she made in her life.  As they are for all of us.  Whether we realize it or not.  Whether we consciously defined them or not.

It’s time to get clear and get focused about your own life.  Once you’ve defined your own mission and vision, be brave and make choices that ensure your life is in alignment with what you want it to be.  Trust that you will get the assistance and guidance along the way.  Be lionhearted.  Don’t play it so safe that you take yourself out of your game.  Write down your mission and vision and perhaps even carry them with you so you can reference them daily.  Don’t be afraid to revise them when they no longer resonate with your heart.

Make the choices that make your life yours—and therefore worthwhile.

As Amelia said it,

Everyone has oceans to fly, as long as you have the heart to do it.

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Double Take

By , October 29, 2010 11:06 PM

Today as I was driving back to work after meeting a friend for lunch, I glanced over to the other side of the road because something caught my attention.  I think at first I thought I might be hallucinating.  There, on the sidewalk of Lookout Road, was a man wearing a black cape and with his head encased in a pumpkin.  (No, I couldn’t tell if the pumpkin was real or fake.)  If that weren’t enough, he was riding a horse.  (The horse was definitely real.)  I’m pretty sure my jaw just dropped.  I mean, what else can you really do when you see such a sight?

Have you heard the story about the remote island tribe who couldn’t see the large clipper ships on the horizon because they had no context for what they were seeing?  Finally, the tribe elder/healer was able to see the ships, even though most of the rest of the tribespeople couldn’t.  I don’t remember now where I heard that story, but don’t you think that’s fascinating?  And doesn’t that get you thinking?

We’ve all had the experience of, for example, deciding to buy a Subaru and then noticing significantly more Subarus around us.  We can definitely see that wherever we put our attention, that’s what gets amplified.  But what happens if we see something that is completely outside of what we think we know?  Can we recognize it at all?  Can we even see it?  How much might we be missing, simply because we don’t have something in our past experience to relate to it?  And what can we do to change that?

Ok, so I totally don’t know the answer to those questions.  But I’m feeling rather inspired to try to find one.  Does anyone out there know?  If so, I’d love to hear!

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Head Waiter

By , October 28, 2010 10:48 PM

Good things come to those who wait.  That’s a proverb we’ve pretty much all heard a million times.  I don’t know about you, but whenever I hear that phrase, my reaction is usually to wrinkle my nose and roll my eyes because it’s someone’s way of telling me to be patient, when that’s really the last thing I want to be.

Ok, I’ll be blunt.  What I hate most about people telling me to be patient is the fact that it implies that I haven’t been or am not already being patient.  And, GOOD GRIEF, do I usually feel like I’ve been (mostly) patiently waiting long enough already!  To be clear, I’m not sitting around on my couch eating bonbons waiting for the world to lay itself on my doorstep and it’s not like I’m not living my life.  Let’s be real.  Most of us want what we want when we want it.  When we think we’re ready.

Can you relate?  I thought maybe so.  If we zoom out for a moment, it might be more accurate to say that, more generally, the impatience I feel is due to the fact that I’m not getting what I want on the time schedule I define—it’s not actually that I’m not getting what I want.  I think that’s an important nuance.  It’s different when you can acknowledge that you do get what you want—love, a job, or other opportunity—but it’s just your timing request that isn’t met.  (That’s very much a head-based judgment, by the way.  Your heart says, “I’m lonely.”  Your head says, “Where is he already?  I’ve been waiting long enough!”)

By the same token, as much as I’ve wanted to find my life partner, for example, I can look back and acknowledge that I know that until recently I wasn’t ready, given what I’m looking for—no matter how much I ever thought I was at any earlier time.  Ah, hindsight.

So, how about a re-frame?  What if I choose to believe that I expressed my desire to the Universe and everything that’s happened since then, in every aspect of my life, has been part of the path to get me and my life partner together.  For me, that’s both empowering and peace-inducing because I’m no longer wandering aimlessly and fruitlessly.  And I’m not being punished for being imperfect.

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Goddess of the Hunt

By , October 27, 2010 10:28 PM

Job hunting is something that usually isn’t all that fun.  In fact, I can’t think of a single person I know who enjoys it in any way.  Before now, the last time I was looking for work was two years ago.  Back then the guy I was dating gave me a list of companies to pursue because he’d heard they were good employers.

Tonight, I tried to find the email with that list.  Bad idea?  Yup.  Going through those emails, I was reminded just a bit too much about that guy.  And, on top of that, I couldn’t even find the list of companies!  Sheesh.

But, it has gotten me thinking…  What’s the best way to find a great job—one that I’ll love, one that’ll provide a generous income and great benefits?  When I consider it, it does seem like a total crap shoot because it’s so hard to know the truth about a job or even a company until you’re actually in it, experiencing it firsthand.

So, what I’m going to do tonight is put my intention out to the Universe for exactly the type of thing I’m looking for.  Then I’ll also ask to be guided to it in a nice and obvious way that I can’t miss.  What’s my role in all this?  Well, I need to ask for what I want and I need to trust that it will come.  The biggest part in this for me, though, is to follow my intuition’s guidance, whether I (or my brain) understand it or not.

Does that sound easy or hard?  For me, it’s a little of both.  Either way, like anything, these are skills to practice and hone.

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Falling into Winter

By , October 26, 2010 10:50 PM

Is it just me or does it feel completely surreal that winter is coming?  I watched the weather forecaster last night talk about our having our first freezing temperatures of the season in the Boulder area in late October and it just seems odd.  (That’s super late for us, by the way.)  And yet, it’s hard to believe that even though it’s nearly November, I feel like I’m in the Twilight Zone.  Yes, we’ve had a warm, beautiful fall and I’ve been spoiled by that, but still, it’s a few days from Halloween (for which the temperature is expected to be in the high 60’s) and it doesn’t seem possible that a time change and another winter are nearly upon us.

For me, the energy of winter is decidedly different from any other season.  It feels like a time of hibernation and contraction.  I rarely see any of my neighbors because everyone is indoors.  The early sunset makes me feel like I need to hurry home from work because it’s already dark.  In fact, some mornings I leave the house when it’s dark and I leave work when it’s dark.  Unless I make a point of going outside during the day, I can miss the sun entirely.

But, there are also some things I love about winter, like the silence of falling snow and its ability to totally transform the landscape in the most delicate redecoration job.  Or the wonderful excuse to spend an afternoon wrapped in a blanket with a good book.  And, of course, there is no lawn mowing required (although there is that tradeoff with snow shoveling…)!

Winter is naturally a time of introspection, so why not take the opportunity to get to know yourself a little bit better?  Take inventory of what you believe and tweak what you find if it doesn’t reflect who you are or who you want to be.  Take steps to cultivate your creativity.  Investigate and do things to nurture yourself.  Make your home some place you love to be.  You know—amp up your power!

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Pacifier Fairy

By , October 25, 2010 10:44 PM

Tonight I had a phone conversation with my sister.  She told me about how she and her partner have attempted to help my 3-year-old nephew get past his pacifier habit.  They left a big letter from the “Pacifier Fairy” on their front porch for my nephew to espy, which he did.  The letter contained instructions for him to collect all his pacifiers and place them in the addressed envelope and put them in the mail.  In exchange for doing this, he would receive a fabulous toy.  My nephew dashed through the house and gathered up all his pacifiers.  He excitedly put them in the envelope and took it out to the mailbox, like a trooper.  When he woke up from his nap, a super cool tow truck was waiting for him on the porch, courtesy of the Pacifier Fairy, of course.  He’s still adjusting to life without a pacifier, but it looks promising.

While this technique may clearly seem appropriate for a toddler, it also works on adults.  Well, more accurately, you can use this on yourself.  (Successfully using it on other adults may be somewhat hit-or-miss.)

This all boils down to a releasing ritual—a conscious decision to let go of something that no longer serves you, even if there’s some comfort or familiarity in it—by saying goodbye to the old and making space for the new.  It doesn’t have to be anything complicated or flowery or “airy-fairy.”

For me this week, I’m giving up dairy and gluten.  I’m doing this as an experiment for my body because she hasn’t been happy with what I’ve been doing and it’s time to try something else.  Is it easy?  No.  But I’m constantly reminding myself that this is a gift to myself and not a punishment.  Yes, it’s a choice.  And, I have the freedom to un-make it whenever I want if it turns out not to serve me.

It may just be time to release a habit or pattern or mindset that drags you down.  If my nephew can do it, so can you!  (I know he’s inspiring me!)

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Angel Inspiration

By , October 24, 2010 11:07 PM

“Once upon a time, there were three little girls who went to the police academy.”  Do you remember that opening line?  If you do, you may also have been a Charlie’s Angels television fan like I was as a kid.  I was completely taken with them because they were so capable and so strong.  I wanted to be that fearless and confident in my abilities.

More recently, I’ve enjoyed the movie franchise of the same title, for much of the same reason.  Actually, I think I like the movies better because the Angels seemed to be having much more fun while they were ridding the world of evil; the series always felt much more serious.

Whether you look at the old tv series or the movies, these women were powerful, feminine women who relied on their talents—brains, ability to kick butt—to nab the bad guys.  Of course, the movies took their skills to sort of a ridiculous level, but, watching them, I could feel the twitch of my own power spark begin to ignite.

What inspires your power to kick in?  Is it watching other people be powerful?  Is it doing something that makes you feel like you’re using your skills to their fullest?  Please don’t discount those feelings because they reflect the truth of who you are.  They point to your abilities and gifts, which are prime places in which your power is rooted.

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Bad Days

By , October 23, 2010 11:07 PM

Are you a faker?  I’m always a little surprised when I see people who fake their way through life on a regular basis.  Pretending to never have a bad day, feigning all sorts of things, even faking orgasms.  There are lots of ways to hide from the truth.  The sad thing, in my opinion, is that this doesn’t really serve anyone.

First, you’re depriving everyone of the truth—the truth of your experience and the truth of who you are.  Believe it or not, most people want this truth, so everyone benefits if you’re honest and real.  Not only do they get to know you more deeply and intimately, they also have more permission to be who they really are because you’ve re-set the playing field on which you come together so that walls and facades are not needed.  (Of course, honesty doesn’t preclude diplomacy and kindness.)

Another facet of this is that, like with so many things, emotions that are suppressed or denied instead of expressed can cause longer term problems.  Instead, just let it out and let it go so you can be free of it and move on.

The truth is that I didn’t have a great day today.  It was very solitary, but it didn’t feel all that good.  I know some of this is simply because I’m tired.  Really tired.  Mostly because of my stint as a trash picker upper yesterday and my body isn’t happy.  Another contributor is the fact that I feel impatient to finally get through this limbo place I feel like I’ve been in for such a long time now.  Today kinda sucked, but I’m pretty sure tomorrow will be better.

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Quick to Judge

By , October 23, 2010 12:19 AM

I feel duped.  I went to see the movie Hereafter on opening night tonight based on what the previews promised.  My experience is that the Hereafter previews were not a reflection of the movie at all.  Now, I’ve certainly been to movies where they show all the interesting or funny scenes in the previews and the rest of the movie is a disappointment, but this was not like that.  This seemed more like a deliberate effort to misrepresent the true nature of the movie.  Hmmmm.

The rest of my day was interesting too.  I spent the afternoon picking up trash on the side of the road.  My employer adopted a 2.5-mile stretch of road near our office and about 14 of us spent several hours walking along the shoulder area collecting the litter.  I think all of us assumed there would be less garbage than there was.  We also had no idea how physically demanding this effort would be.  In the end, we only managed to get through one side of the road before we ran out of steam and trash bags.

Let me just say, it was really discouraging to see how much trash litters our road.  And how little we see as we’re zooming by in our cars.  Strangely, the movie and the trash collection somehow tie together in my mind.  It’s kind of like our worldview and expectations are driven by sound-bite snippets that only give us the most superficial taste of reality.  I don’t think I have any answers today, just a bit of social commentary to hopefully get you thinking.

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